Be careful to keep your view of college in its proper place or else you may become like me and realize you’re letting it get out of hand. This is what I mean:… Continue reading

3 reasons vs. missionary dating

Recently a buddy of mine told me he had hit it off really well with a girl and went out on several dates with her. But then discovered she wasn’t a Christian. He… Continue reading

Questions to ask yourself before you get married

Are you going my way? Jim Croce’s “I Got a Name” contains a lyric If you’re going my way, I’ll go with you. You can listen to it here (2:33). If you’re in a serious… Continue reading

Marriage: roles vs duties

I recently grabbed lunch with my pastor and he asked me how married life is going. My response to his question shed much light on my [then] current view of marriage. I told… Continue reading

Israelites & me

God’s desire for us is the same desire he had for the Israelites. Jeremiah 7:23 simplifies it so well, “Obey me, and I will be your God and will be my people.”

Mistakes (Part 3)

The last post in this series is about the joys and blessings (benefits) of honoring the Lord with our relationships. There’s REASONS we should exercise self-control and flee from all sexual temptations. It’s… Continue reading

Mistakes (Part 2)

In my last post I talked about the sins of my past in regard to dating and I hope it was good to you. Now I want to share some things that I… Continue reading

Mistakes (Part 1)

In my previous post I told you I would share the mistakes I made in regards to dating. Here they are. I allowed the world to determine what my physical boundaries were. The… Continue reading


The topic of christian dating is very dear to my heart. It can be such a profound period of growth and maturity for both men and women. Unfortunately, I’ve seen Christian couples (including… Continue reading

Praying more is ok

Don’t confuse a disciplined prayer life with self-righteousness. One is Godly and the other’s not. I encounter people all the time who are afraid to pray a lot because they fear becoming self-righteous.… Continue reading

A phone skill from Dad

I called a grass client the other day and I started it like this: “Hi ___________? This is Adam Sylvester. I promised you I would call you tonight to discuss our plans for… Continue reading


While observing a group of elementary kids playing soccer I watched a dispute break out. The younger kids were mad at the oldest, most athletic, and most influential kid on the team. He… Continue reading


Dating is simply a foreshadowing of marriage. If dating for you rocks, marriage will probably rock. If dating for you is bad then your marriage will be bad. If you’re “not sure” if… Continue reading

Response to Mel Robbins about marriage

I bet I’m not the only person to write a response to Mel Robbins’ article in Success Magazine called “Fight for Your Happiness“. I’ll summarize it for you in case you don’t click… Continue reading

Lesson(s) from Grandpa

My grandpa on my Mom’s side (I never met my Dad’s, wish I had…) taught me this lesson when I was starting my lawn business: weed-wack first so your mower cuts and grooms… Continue reading

Words matter

When I was in sales, I used to hear this phrase all the time: “It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.” It was usually said when training about emotion, tone,… Continue reading

Don’t knock, just walk in

What’s the best way to determine if someone is using the bathroom? Just walk in. Another way (the safest and most comfortable) is to knock. But sometimes the environment is loud and too… Continue reading

Guest post

Special thanks to EmilyMorganThompson for allowing me to guest write on her blog. If you’re curious, click here. Oh, and give me a shout if you want her to reciprocate.

Tribute to Dad Re-Post

A year ago I wrote a very special post titled, “Tribute to Dad” for my Dad’s birthday. A year later, I thought it would be fitting to re-post it. Please enjoy. Dad, happy… Continue reading


The internet is powerful because of links- links to other sites, stories, articles, homemade rap videos, headlines, blogs, podcasts, pictures, Amazon, PDFs, eBooks, songs, archives. We discover new ideas & information via links-content… Continue reading

Real giving isn’t easy

Giving requires sacrifice. If it doesn’t then it’s just convenience. “Thanks for giving me your last Starburst!” “No problem, I don’t like that flavor anyway.” That’s not special, that’s hurtful. Download this post… Continue reading

The LunchBox Express Full Story

I sat down with Joey Young and Dan Heilberg (owners of the LunchBox Express) to get a proper perspective of one of the newest, coolest restaurants in Charlottesville. I wanted a full description of… Continue reading

Journaling is worth it

It took me a year and a half but I recently finished my journal and started a new one. A lot has changed since July 2010… Instead of getting emotionally reminiscent I’ll simply say… Continue reading

If I owned a restuarant

Each table would have a log (could be notebook paper) that records every customer’s order. And I would never edit it. When the customer asked me for my recommendation, I would point to the… Continue reading


Warmest place on a cold night when you’re camping? Next to the fire. As soon as you walk away you can immediately feel the cold. Return to the fire and you’re warm again.… Continue reading

Another average carsalesman who needs training

I went car shopping over the weekend (not for myself, don’t worry Hyundai lovers) so I took some mental notes about the two salesmen…. The 1st never asked why? what are you using it for?… Continue reading

“Too Long!” (Bo’sun gets impatient in Pirates of the Caribbean)

I often use too many words when I speak. I’m affected by the same evil love as everyone else: my own voice. But a well-chosen word can say more than 20 empty ones. That… Continue reading

Red-Nosed Sylvester the Cat

In the past two days I’ve received three full audiobooks and twenty three songs at no cost from and How? Start a free trial, get all the free stuff, and then cancel… Continue reading

Stop Running

Recently I was running and my shin (yes, shin) started to cramp. Very strange. Anyway, I was tempted (and I even tried) to run faster, longer…which made it worse. But the cramp remained.… Continue reading

Eye on the red dot

In archery, while shooting an arrow, it’s hard to know how accurate you’re going to be until the arrow actually reaches the target- because before you release the arrow it’s only a hair… Continue reading

Teach Me, Expert

Squidoo, a website created by Seth Godin, is a platform for anyone to share their knowledge of expertise to anyone. (ex: if you need help tying a bow tie, you could learn here.) His goal? encourage users… Continue reading

Breaking the Rules for Slice

You may have heard the saying, “If you have a good meal at a restaurant you’ll tell one person. Have a bad meal, and you’ll tell ten.” Well, there’s exceptions to everything, and I’m breaking… Continue reading

Open for Change

Here’s something (I think) I learned three years ago but recently became consciously aware. Feedback from others is the catalyst of change. Feedback comes in all shapes and sizes so learn to recognize… Continue reading

Long Lost Notes

I recently discovered this random list of notes I wrote over a year ago for several different books (as you can tell) I was reading at the time…I don’t type my notes often so… Continue reading

Relay Foods and Amazon are Winners

Word of mouth is the best form of advertising that exists. If an info commercial tells me to buy the Ripped Abs Miracle Worker I’m going to ignore it. But if a friend… Continue reading

Bedrock Sandals

I recently learned about a new project called Bedrock Sandals, by Nick Pence and Dan Opalacz. They’ve designed a pair of minimalist walking and hiking sandals that have loads of potential. These are… Continue reading

For Musician’s Eyes Only

Social media has become a very popular and common platform for budding musicians who are trying to share their passions with others. The idea is this: upload enough free content, reply to everyone’s… Continue reading

Is Your Work Valuable?

If you are looking for a job or currently have a job, then you should ask yourself this question: Is the work I’m doing for my employer worth what I’m getting paid? The… Continue reading

BGC Shirts: Lessons Learned

Often I’m asked about the Big Guy Club shirts I marketed and sold over a year ago. The bottom line is this: my critics were right; it didn’t work. But what I learned… Continue reading

Tribute to Dad

Today is your birthday Dad…. You make me glad I’m your son. Favorite sayings You make me glad I’m a dad. He won’t have the guts to do that again. You can eat… Continue reading

Quick Thought on Time

A phrase we hear often is I didn’t have time or I’m not going to have time. Oh really, when did God shorten your day to 20 hours? The truth is we all… Continue reading

My 2011 Book List

Now you may follow along with me this year if you’d like, but keep in mind that I don’t plan on reading them in order. I left room for surprises/recommendations throughout the year… Continue reading

2010 MVP The Path Principal

The Most Valuable Principal I learned in 2010 is The Principal of the Path. Andy Stanley teaches this principal and most of the following material is his. The Principal of the Path says… Continue reading

Kids Are Expert Salespeople

I have a five-year old cousin named Sarah. We played together during our visit over Christmas. I’m the youngest of my parents’ six children. I’ve never played with little kids. I don’t babysit.… Continue reading

Top Five Books 2010

It’s almost 2011, so here’s a review of my favorite books I read this year 1.) Linchpin by Seth Godin Seth Godin is an excellent writer, blogger, CEO, and speaker. He studies and… Continue reading

Pictures [My All-Time Favorites]

No specific order -Adam- Download this post as a pdf here

Rhetorical Question

What do you think about first when you wake up each morning? –Adam- Download this post as a pdf here


Write things down so you remember There’s exceptions to everything You can’t steer a parked car When in doubt just shake hands Appealing a traffic ticket in court never works If you like… Continue reading


No one pays attention when you know something; they notice when you don’t know. Haven’t you ever tried to show off your amazing piece of knowledge and nobody cared? But when everyone in… Continue reading

New Web Browser RockMelt is Legit

If there’s a new product that’s good and beneficial, then I want everyone to know about it. That’s why I’m plugging RockMelt- a new web browser which has focused most of its features… Continue reading

The Giving Principal

The Giving Principal You Can Only Give What You Have—- it can be good or bad. Let’s pretend Person A receives a lot of encouragement. His friends encourage him, so do his coworkers,… Continue reading

Remove The Blinders

“Discover your strengths and implement them in the path you take.” “Realize what you love to do, and find something that involves your passions.” “Everybody is great at something; figure out what your… Continue reading

The Price Tag of Success

The price tag for failure is greater than the price tag for success. The price increases the closer to the top. It never decreases. The price must be paid continually. The price is… Continue reading

The Catalyst

While reading The 17 Indisputable Laws of Teamwork by John C. Maxwell, his 6th chapter really stuck out. It’s called “The Law of the Catalyst.”  He says a team must have a catalyst:… Continue reading

Silent Advice is the Best Kind

Advice is a tough thing to tackle. Everyone loves their own voice. I’m beginning to realize when I try to give someone good advice it usually falls on dead ears. I don’t blame… Continue reading

The Importance of a Correct Priority List

A good thing to do with your busy schedule is to make a list of all your important things and rank them from highest to lowest priority- you know this. It helps you… Continue reading

The Law of Value

In their book, The Go-Giver, Bob Burg and John David Mann tell a great story about a man who learns 5 laws that will change his life professionally, financially, personally, and spiritually. I… Continue reading

Important Questions To Ask Yourself

You already know I’m a big fan of questions. Here are some questions I’ve been answering for myself recently: What do you like/dislike? The typical response to this is “What kind of things… Continue reading

Compound Interest aka Wealth Builder

The days of thinking a 50 dollar pair of pants is only worth 50 dollars… are over. That’s only the present value; the potential value is 4-5 times greater if you can grasp… Continue reading

How To Get a Good Tan

Over the years I have developed a very good system for tanning. When each summer comes along, I get very excited because tanning is like a game to me. The darker I get,… Continue reading

Why 18-24yr Olds Need Life Insurance

You aren’t married, you don’t have kids, you don’t own a home, and you don’t have school loans. But you still need life insurance. Here’s why. Life insurance=if you have a life insurance… Continue reading

Is Someone Screening Your Calls?

Everyone has been in this situation: your phone starts blowing up (I use vibrate but it doesn’t matter) and you notice on the caller id that it’s a person you don’t really want… Continue reading

View Others as Bridges, not Steps

José Manuel Pujol Hernández (Venezuelan leadership guru) said, “If we view people as steps then we will use them to raise ourselves up. But if we view them as bridges, then we’ll connect… Continue reading

Is It Worth It?

You have probably dealt with the issue of: is it worth it? Or better yet: what will make it worth it? For example: it’s the issue of babysitting. Your night is over, the… Continue reading

Delayed Gratification: A Brilliant Example

You should hate the idea of delayed gratification. It’s completely against human nature. That’s not to say you don’t ever partake in it; but it goes against your will to have something later.… Continue reading

A Quick Story about Asking

I’m at Sam’s Club with two items. All I see are lines longer than John Isner’s tennis match today. Like always, the lines consist of people that seem to be shopping for their… Continue reading

The Law of the Inner Circle

John Maxwell says the level of success in your organization is measured by the people that surround you. In other words, you will either win or lose because of the people on your… Continue reading

Health and Vitality. Strong Body.

If you want to reach your goals your body must be able to keep up. Jim Rohn said, “Unless you have the health, it can’t be done.” Your mind won’t produce great ideas… Continue reading

Instantly Add Value to Others

This is a short post. Do you want to add value to others? If you didn’t you wouldn’t be reading this blog. Start sending people thank you cards. All the time. Make it… Continue reading

The Seven Remedies for a Lean Purse

If you haven’t read “The Richest Man in Babylon” by George S. Clason then this post could change your life.  Jim Rohn, one of the world’s greatest thought leaders and philosophers of all… Continue reading

Two Worlds

While reading A Praying Life by Paul E. Miller, I was confronted by my own failure to live a true life. What  I mean is this: I often live two different lives: my… Continue reading

One of My Favorite Books

The Aladdin Factor by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen will completely change your life. I’ve only read it twice but I’ve absorbed so many skills that directly and instantly apply to my… Continue reading

The X Factor

The X Factor: it’s you. Darren Hardy (publisher of Success Magazine) says the X Factor determines your level of success in your life. YOU decide what books you read, you decide who you… Continue reading