In my last post I talked about the sins of my past in regard to dating and I hope it was good to you. Now I want to share some things that I don’t think get enough stage time in the Christian community. Even though the Bible doesn’t comprehensively talk about dating, it still talks about it. Trust me, God didn’t leave it up to us to establish boundaries for ourselves.
- Matthew 5 says you’re committing adultery if you lust after someone other than your spouse. He commands it because God wants your (potential) marriage to be beautifully pure- not stained with regret. Have you confessed secret sin or are you living in darkness? He’ll redeem (forgive) you- just ask Him then leave your life of sin (John 8:11)
- Keep yourselves from idols (1 John 5:21). Is your girlfriend/boyfriend an idol? Is your desire for him/her greater than your desire for God? If so, God calls that idolatry.
- Young people: set an example for the believers in purity (1 Timothy 4:12). That part often gets skimmed over when the first part “Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young…” gets quoted. Paul was speaking to a young person and he said, “Set an example by staying pure!”
- Physical beauty REALLY is fleeting. (Proverbs 31:30) It’s not a typo even if it makes you uncomfortable. Jesus’ words could translate into current lingo this way: Stop looking for the hottest or richest one and see what I see. Does she fear the Lord? Is he submitted to the Lord? Bingo.
- The basic goal of dating is to become best friends. This friendship, prior to marriage, excludes kissing and other similar forms of physical satisfaction. If you’re a guy do you kiss all your best guy friends? Neither should you be kissing your girlfriend either. (I Thessalonians 4:3) Pursue sanctification